Let’s Get Real: Insecurities

Let’s Get Real: Insecurities

When I was in high school my confidence level was at an all-time low. As we all do at that age and even after, I had low self esteem because I constantly compared myself to the people around me. I was what you would call the “token black girl” of my group of friends. Once I realized this I fell into a pattern of trying to assimilate. I was constantly straightening my hair and doing whatever I could to feel like I belonged. My friends always had this long straight hair that I longed for. I felt like I didn’t fit in because everything about me was so different than everyone I surrounded myself with.  I constantly referred to myself as the Khloe Kardashian of the group because at the time she was the one Kardashian everyone was the hardest on. She had very little similarities to her sisters. She was a lot taller, had an “average” body, and spoke her mind. I was like her in so many ways while my friends resembled her sisters. In high school being different isn’t seen as a positive. So, I did everything I could to fit in. What I failed to realize was that no matter what you do there will always be someone who has something negative to say about you. I was on three sports teams, so I was constantly active. People used to tell me the way I walked was “masculine” or that I was “too buff”. I constantly straightened my hair because if I didn’t it was extremely short and curly. On the days I did wear my natural hair it was referred to as “nappy” or “ghetto”. Being a black person if you act a certain way or speak properly you’re categorized as “whitewashed.” Back then I saw this as a compliment because in my head I thought I was fitting in. I was trying to blend in with everyone around me instead of being myself.

Once I left that environment I really started figuring out who I was. When I turned 21 I decided it was time to let my fro fly free. I retired my straightener and dove head first into natural hair blogs. (I will do a post on that transition soon.) My natural hair journey taught me so much about myself. I couldn’t rely on fitting in because my hair made me stand out. It didn’t occur to me that there weren’t a lot of people embracing their natural hair. It helped me build my confidence. I embraced the fact that I stood out and didn’t look like everyone else. Within that journey, I learned that I’m a huge natural beauty activist and started embracing my culture. While I was out people would come up and ask me questions about my hair. It gave me the opportunity to converse with a diverse group as well as make friends with girls who were like me and give advice to people who wanted to follow my path. By making the decision to embrace something about myself that I was previously ashamed of it pushed me to accept anything I saw as a flaw.

So why am I sharing this with you? I was recently inspired to write this post because of something a friend said. I was out this past weekend hanging with some friends I’ve known since high school. They were asking me what I’ve been up to and why I haven’t been hanging with them as often. I explained that it was because I was trying to focus on my blog and bettering myself. One of the guys proceeded to say, “let’s be real Kendra, you’re not pretty enough to make it as a model.”

It took a comment like that to make me realize how far I’ve come. Now that most of our time is spent on social media we’re kind of used to people saying negative things about us via the web. But having someone say something to your face so bluntly can teach you a lot about yourself. At that moment I realized that I wasn’t hurt. What he said didn’t knock me down. It only made me realize that I wasn’t that same girl who needed acceptance. We all have the power to lift ourselves up and stay there. Don’t give that power to someone else. Once you realize that other’s opinions don’t truly matter so many doors will open for you. So, I challenge you, look in the mirror or deep down within and figure out what you believe your biggest flaw is. It could be your earlobes, your laugh, your elbows, etc. EMBRACE IT! Remember, there will always be someone skinnier than you. There will always be someone smarter. There will always be someone more popular. There will never be another you. Once you embrace what you believe to be your worst feature or characteristic is anything anyone says to you won’t matter. Love yourself for the person you are. Life is too short to worry about what other people want you to be.

You are a beautiful human being inside and out.

Sending positive vibes your way.
XO

 

Motivation Lost & Found

Motivation Lost & Found

We’re rapidly approaching our halfway point for this year. This is the time of year that most find really trying. Your new year motivation high is starting to wear off and it’s getting a lot harder to keep up with your new routine. I can tell you that I let February get the best of me. I went on vacation, got sick, had car problems, the list goes on. I let all of these things interfere with my progress. Even though it started feeling disheartening I decided to take a breath and reevaluate. It’s so easy to lose focus but extremely hard to pick up where you left off. Don’t let it discourage you. Even though you lost your train of thought it doesn’t mean your goal is impossible to reach. So if you find yourself in rut and unfocused, let this post be a sign to push through it. Trust the process. Run that mile. Save your money. Find yourself.

Here are a few tips to help get you back in the game when you’re down and out.

  • Sit down and write a list of things you need to do to get back into your routine.
    • Sometimes all you need is to see it on paper.
  • Find an outlet that motivates you.
    • Everyone is different. Test out different outlets that help motivate you. When my mind is cloudy I love to listen to podcasts during my workouts. There’s just something about Tony Robbins yelling at me during a set of squats that motivates me.
  • Eliminate your distractions.
    • It’s easy to get caught up in everything around you. Figure out what is distracting you and take it out of the equation. I took a social media hiatus for a month to clear my head and realign my focus.
  • Switch up your working environment.
    • You may need a change of scenery. If you usually work from home change it up and head to a nearby cafe or library.

  • Take a break.
    • It’s okay to step away. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and sometimes we try to ignore it. Take a step back, breathe in, and collect your thoughts.
  • Meditate.
    • So if you’ve read my posts you know that I’m a big advocate for meditation. There are so many benefits to daily meditation. One major one is practicing the ability to shut out everything around you. With so many things going on throughout the day it’s amazing what even just a few minutes of silence can do for you.

Remember just because you’re having a hard day don’t let it derail your progress. You can do it. Focus on the light at the end of the tunnel. This is your time.

Sending positive vibes your way.

XO

Little Acts of Self-Care: It’s okay to be a NARSissist

Little Acts of Self-Care: It’s okay to be a NARSissist

Alright guys, if you know me you know I’m a very low maintenance type of gal. I love to just get up and go. (I guess you can say I’m a little impatient as well.) One of my intentions for this month is to step out of my comfort zone with my self-care practice. We all have the routine go-tos that make us feel amazing and grounded. Even though it’s perfectly acceptable to keep these in rotation, it’s also important to branch out. I was talking to a close friend about some of her practices and she told me that putting on her makeup has to be one of her favorites. There’s something extremely therapeutic about the process of applying her make up from the brush strokes to picking out the shades of eyeliner. Once you finish your spirits are as bright as your highlight.

So, I decided to cross the line of comfort to enter a world unknown.  I attended an event hosted by NARS to showcase their new spring line. Let me tell you it was a huge learning experience. As soon as I walked in I was given a makeover by one of the very talented cosmetologists they had on staff. She started by showing me each of the new products she was going to use. By far my favorites were the NARSissit shadow palette (Wanted) & the vibrant red power matte lip (Starwoman). Since I have fairly clear skin it’s not necessary for me to use foundation and concealer. But I must say NARS’ products go on smoothly and with the consistency, it looks as though you don’t have any makeup on at all.

As I walked around and mingled with some of the other ladies at the event. I quickly learned that applying makeup is a preferred self-care act for most women. I met so many people who were very passionate about the products and makeup tutorial that was given. Even though I don’t think I will be adding full face makeup application to my daily routine, I did learn about some amazing products and tips to spice up the looks I usually go for. I hope this inspires you to push yourself to try new things. You never know what you’ll truly like unless you get out there and try it. What type of self-care practices would you like to incorporate into your routine?

Sending Positive Vibes Your Way
XO

Little Acts of Self Care: Shopping on a Budget

Little Acts of Self Care: Shopping on a Budget

Unless you’re living under a rock, you’ve heard the phrase “New Year, New Me.” There are so many meanings we could pull from this phrase but I’d like to focus on one in particular. It may be time to update your wardrobe, but if you’re like me another resolution may be to save more this year. The big question is how do you balance both? Well, I linked up with Tyler of Thrifts & Tangles to get some tips on updating your wardrobe without hurting your wallet

  • Hang the items you already own: A lot of times we forget about pieces in our wardrobe when they are folded away. Hang up as many items as you can, so they aren’t out of site or out of mind. Who knows, you may have items that you forgot about hidden away in a drawer. This is an instant trick to refreshing your wardrobe, without spending any money.
  • Add unique statement pieces to your wardrobe: These pieces are great because you only need a few of them in your wardrobe. These pieces will transform any basic look into a stylish look. Bold jackets and sweaters make great statement pieces.
  • Shop secondhand: Thrift stores are the perfect place to shop when refreshing your wardrobe because you can score amazing items without spending lots of money. If you don’t have any good thrift stores near you, you can always shop secondhand online at Ebay.com or Thredup.com
  • Look for accessories: Whether it’s a necklace, a purse, or a scarf, one simple accessory will refresh any look
  • Versatility is key: When shopping for new wardrobe items, try to buy pieces that can be worn lots of ways. Before buying the item, imagine three different ways to style it to make sure you can get lots are wears out of it.

Tyler and I spent the day at Savers sorting through racks of gently used clothes pulling out gem after gem. As you can see in the pictures above we found more than enough steals. Since my closet consists of mostly black clothing I really resonated with her statement piece tip. I was able to find a couple of jackets and an amazing shawl that I can’t get enough of. (Pictured below) I hope you find these tips helpful, I sure did. Be sure to let me know what tip you’re going to apply to your next shopping trip! Happy Shopping!

Sending positive vibes your way.

XO

 

 

 

New Year. New Intentions.

New Year. New Intentions.

Happy New Year Everyone! Let’s take a quick second to look back on last year. I don’t  know about you but 2017 was a year of major growth for me. I started the year with a list of resolutions that I hoped to accomplish by December but three months in my mindset completely changed. I realized that all of the things that I originally wanted to accomplish no longer held my interest because in that time frame I decided that wasn’t the path for me. So this year I took that into consideration when drafting my goals for 2018. It came to my attention that these New Year Resolutions we set for ourselves are unrealistic. Most of the time they are just minor goals that we are trying to turn into long-term goals. We’re setting these expectations for ourselves that we’re not even sure we’ll still want down the road. With that being said I want you to really challenge yourself this year. Instead of setting a list of things you hope to accomplish by December 31st. Give yourself monthly intentions. If you think that you want to go vegan this year, set the intention February 1st and for that month go for it! It gives you the opportunity to see if its something you really want to do while allowing you to build the habit and discipline for it in the process.

Write down your monthly intentions and post them somewhere you’ll see them daily.

It’s time to truly live your best life.

Make sure you comment and let me know what your intentions are for this month! I’d love to see them. If you’d like to see my January intentions and a few of the steps I’m taking towards reaching them subscribe to my newsletter.

 

Morning Practice- The Beneficial Way To Start Your Day

Morning Practice- The Beneficial Way To Start Your Day

It’s 7:00am and your alarm goes off, what’s your first instinct? Hit the snooze button to get that extra eight minutes of zzzz? Scrolling through your insta? Or maybe it’s just to lay there for a little before getting ready. Whatever it is, the way you start your day can be the most beneficial for your daily wellbeing. Each day you wake up you have a clean slate. What you do when you first wake up sets the tone for your entire day. By developing some type of routine your daily mindset will change for the better.
Take it from me. Morning person is not something I usually say when I’m describing myself. After listening to a couple of podcasts and reading a few blog posts on morning practices/routines I knew that it was something I needed to try out. Now I can’t imagine my life without my routine. It’s not about waking up two hours earlier and going to the gym or running errands. It’s about taking the time to make sure your mind and body are aligned for the day. You want to make sure you’re ready to take on the day and everything it has to throw at you.

My Morning Practice:
-5 minutes of intentions for the day and repeating my daily mantra.
*I take this time to lay in bed after my alarm goes off to collect my thoughts. I like to make a list of any intentions I have for the day. (What I wish to accomplish) I also like to repeat my mantra or daily affirmation. It could be any saying that uplifts you. Some days I use an app I found called Affirmations. (Ex. Today’s Affirmation: I accept myself unconditionally.)
-3 minutes of meditation.
*Daily meditation is something that I’ve grown to love. Doing it in the morning allows me to center myself and clear my mind of anything I may be worrying about in the day to come. Meditating is not something that comes easily for most people. *cough cough* me. I highly recommend the Headspace app for all beginners.
-5 minutes of yoga.
*Now that my mind is nourished, it’s time to wake my body up. I am very new to yoga but already obsessed with it. There are so many benefits to yoga. It’s something that’s great for the mind, body, and soul. I chose to incorporate this in my morning routine to help wake up my muscles. You always stretch before working out. Why not stretch before starting your day?

As you can see you don’t need to do much for your morning routine, especially if you’re just starting to develop one. Start small and work your way up.

Other Options:
-Go for a walk
-Write morning pages (3-5 pages of anything that comes to mind!)
-Read a few pages of a book or even an entire chapter.
-Subscribe to morning newsletter.
*My favorite – Waking Up With Ryan

Sending positive vibes your way.

Nothing Less Than Superior

Nothing Less Than Superior

Most of us want to live a healthier life but our lack of free time makes it harder to follow through. Thanks to Brian Dover and Superior Nutrition we all have one less excuse. Superior Nutrition is a Meal Prep Delivery Service in Las Vegas that is making it easier for people to eat healthy, while still having time to focus on their daily tasks and passions.

How did you come up with the idea for Superior Nutrition?

BD: The idea came from cooking and meal prepping for myself. I figured if I’m saving my time and money, I could be doing the same for others. It came from wanting to help people.

When did you first start your business?

BD: It’s been a year and three months. I actually started out cooking full time out of my house and then it just took off.

Where does the name Superior Nutrition come from?

BD: It came from a lot of different ideas. The name came from what I wanted to portray as the best. That’s where Superior comes in.

Let’s think back to Brian from two years ago…. What was your mindset?

BD: My mindset was on work. I was focused on work but also questioning what I really want to do. I remember being in China knowing that I wanted to start a business, but doing what? I knew what I wanted to do but I had no idea what that would entail. That’s where my mindset was at, wanting something but not knowing exactly what it was but still having faith that it will come when it comes.

How does that compare to your mindset today?

BD: By understanding that there’s always another level to things, always a next step. To know that two years ago I didn’t have an idea that this is what it would be today, the same could also be true for the next two years. My mindset is just always curious and keeping the possibility open. You never know.

What would you say was your biggest struggle starting out?

BD: The biggest struggle starting out is how hard it is to get started. The hardest part is staying started. You have to remember you’re always going to be starting something new. The biggest part is continuing that drive. You have to find your own motivation.

So, you just finished your first year. Can you name two goals you originally hoped to accomplish within that time?

BD: One of my goals that I had hoped to accomplish was to sell my meals inside of gym at a whole sale deal. I was able to accomplish that at the beginning of the year. Unfortunately, the gym I was selling it to was bought out by another gym so the deal fell through. It was discouraging at first but then I just went back to my costumer base and kept focused.
Another goal that I had and was able to accomplish was to find a professional chef. I wanted a great person that was well rounded and loved cooking. That was one of my greatest goals. I was able to find a freaking boss, Petrina. I met her on whim. We met at a bar, got to talking, and the rest is history. We have such a great dynamic and I believe that’s very important when working with someone.

What advice would you give someone who is just starting out?

BD: Remember what it’s like to work for someone else. If you keep that in mind you’ll understand the struggles and remember that it’s worth it.

How does your brand reflect you and the type of person you are?

BD: I am always trying to do my best. I always strive to do right. It’s Superior Nutrition. The Best Nutrition. The Best You.

If you could one pick one thing that you want people to know about Superior Nutrition, what would it be?

BD: That we’re going to be a global food leader in the food industry. In the next 5 years I would like to own a grocery store and farm that would provide our product to people.

Fill in the blank.

BD:Helping people motivates me the most.

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Call/Text: (702) 937-7766
Email: WIN@alwayssuperior.com
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60 Day Reboot Revamped

60 Day Reboot Revamped

Most of you may remember my first post a couple months ago. I had an idea of how I wanted to share my journey on the Reboot, but then life happened. I had a lot going on so I decided to push it back. So now I’m taking it in a different direction. I’ve decided it’s time for me to start another Reboot. Now you may be wondering what it is exactly. The 60 Day Reboot is designed for you to focus on everything you keep putting on the back burner. I am the master of saying I’m going to do something and not following through. So if you’re like me this reboot is for you.

The Goals
Your goals can range from anything. This reboot is for you, designed by you, to help you on the path to finding yourself. Below I have a list of what I hope to accomplish by the end of this. Hopefully it helps you figure out the direction you want to go in. Take a second to write out your own list and join me in the journey.

KJ’s Reboot Goals:
-Fitness & Nutrition
*Go to the gym at least an hour every day.
*Get creative with cardio in workouts.
*Stick to clean eating. (Cut out dairy, red meat, and eat more plant based meals)
*Cook more meals at home rather than going out to eat.
*Cut out coffee and switch to tea.
*Cut down on alcohol.
*Add yoga into my daily routine.(Adrienne’s 30 day yoga challenge)

Self Care
*No social media before 10am or after 6:30pm
*Adapt a morning and nightly routine. (Daily affirmations, stretching, reading, etc.)
*Finish 3-4 books. (Substitute excessive social media usage for reading)
*Meditate for at least 10 minutes a day. (No excuses)
*Develop skin care routine.
*Use more natural products for hair/skin.
*Get on a consistent sleep schedule.
*Wake up earlier.
*Volunteer more.

Creative Outlets
*Explore more creative outlets. (Painting, writing, etc.)

Creating a More Enjoyable Living Space
*Minimize belongings.
-Everyday find one thing that you don’t need and put it in the donation bag.
*Make your room somewhere that brightens your energy. (Your room reflects you.)

These are just a few of my goals for the next 60 days. They may seem small to some but they are things that I personally need to work on. Self care is sooooo important. Focusing on your own needs and wants is mandatory when on the path to figuring out who you are. So whether your list is similar to mine or completely opposite. I wish you luck. Today is the day we take that step towards self love.

Sending positive vibes your way.

The Liberating Babes of Burnt Boutique

The Liberating Babes of Burnt Boutique

Burnt Boutique is unlike any store you’ve seen. It’s a vintage renovated trailer located in the yard of a dive bar in downtown Las Vegas. This store is centered around bringing the community together and supporting local art. Burnt was founded by two far out, twenty something babes, Nicole and Reina. It all started as an online store ran by Nicole(BurntNic). Until one day, Nic and Reina joined forces to create Burnt Boutique.

How was the transition from BurntNic into Burnt Boutique?

N:Yea, it was just like “hey dude, do you want to do this?”

R:It was very nonchalant.

What was the hardest thing for each of you when it came to getting started?

N:The actual manual labor. Renovating the trailer was just really time consuming. Literal blood, sweat, and tears went into it because we renovated it from May to September. It was hard to do during the summer.

R: Yea, it was fun too. We were just in there in sports bras and boy shorts. Just doing it. We didn’t have to talk, we would just get into the zone and each add our own little spin on it. Other then the labor the whole process has been a real fluid and easy experience. I haven’t found anything hard.

N: We’re on the same page. We’re extremely lucky.

Can you remember a major goal you had in when you first opened?

N:Traveling has always been a goal. We want to take the tray to different festivals. Our end goal is to start a band and tour with it. Eventually just tour with it.

Reina on the drums. Nicole slapping the bass.

What advise would you give to someone who is just starting out?

N:I know that it’s scary to quit your job or to try something new but that transition you get to find yourself. Once you start feeding your soul it all starts flowing naturally. Learn from what you’re doing.

R: Just own it. You don’t have to act like someone else or that you know what you’re doing. I don’t know what I’m doing half the time. You don’t have to know what you’re doing. The best part is just doing it.

How would you say the brand relates to your personalities? Does it embody the type of people you are?

R: I’m a very high energy person. If I want to do something I’m going to do it. I don’t care if it takes me seven hours and I only get one hour of sleep. I just always go until I’m burnt out.

N:Smoking also connects us to Burnt. It’s in the name, Burnt Boutique. But, I was also just kind of burnt out from the norm. I’m not one for pushy sales. I’m tired of being a sales person. I just wanted a store that can be a hang out for different people.

If there’s one thing you’d want people to know about Burnt, what would it be?

R: We love our community. Good vibes all around.

N:Everyone is always welcome.

Finish the statement

N:My kid motivates me the most.

R:My happiness motivates me the most.

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Camp I Am

Camp I Am

I think I’ve started around 5 drafts for this post. I wasn’t sure which direction I wanted to go or what specific things I wanted to highlight about this experience. So finally, I just wrote. I looked at pictures from camp and I just naturally wrote what this camp provided me and everyone else with.
Camp I am is a four day camp for children on the autism spectrum. As a volunteer counselor, I was assigned two very sweet 12-year-old boys. It was my duty to make sure they were safe and having fun the entire weekend. Which wasn’t very hard. There are so many different activities you don’t even have time to be bored. We did different things like canoeing, rock climbing, lots of dancing, water fights, and arts and crafts.
I can honestly say that the best part of camp wasn’t any of the activities. I can clearly remember this one instance where I was standing in the pavilion (the main stage area) and they were playing one of the camp songs. I looked around and everyone was just dancing wildly. I couldn’t help but get emotional. Life is hard for everyone. Some people have it a lot harder than others. In that moment, none of that mattered. Everyone was equal and didn’t have a care in the world. It humbled me. I became grateful for being able to be a part of something so pure.
This year’s theme was Around the World, spotlighting on the concept of acceptance. Each age group decorated their own wooden square which when all squares were connected it spelt out “Acceptance.” Now each group had to choose a couple of campers to come up stage and explain what acceptance meant to them. It’s always very eye opening to see things from someone else’s perspective. These kids are still very innocent, they don’t know hate or what it is to be judgmental. To listen to each of their perspectives on acceptance was extremely moving. It brought me back to a place before I became so vulnerable to the world around me. It reminded me that it doesn’t cost anything to be a decent human being.

Take a second out of your day to compliment someone, start a conversation with a stranger, or stand up for something you believe in. Be a better person.